Updated: Nov 14
As parents, it’s our responsibility to teach and guide our children to become responsible, happy, and successful adults. However, as our children grow older, our parenting role changes, and we need to learn to let go and give them more autonomy. It's challenging to find the perfect balance between giving them independence and maintaining a close relationship. But, by tilting your parenting hat a bit, you can provide the necessary support and guidance they need to grow into their full potential. For more on this topic, access to parenting resources, the opportunity to learn and grow with others on the same parenting journey, and to learn about our upcoming workshops, please visit this link.
Giving Autonomy and Independence: Let Them Make Decisions
As parents, we tend to make decisions for our children, sometimes without even realizing it. We want the best for them, and we think we know what’s best for them. However, as our children grow older, it's essential to allow them to make decisions and be accountable for their choices. By letting them make their decisions, we teach them responsibility, independence, and problem-solving skills.
Setting boundaries for our children is crucial, especially when they are older. Boundaries teach our children to respect others, and it sets clear expectations for them. It’s essential to establish rules and consequences and communicate to them the reasons behind them. When we set boundaries, we show our children that we care about them and strive to keep them safe.
As parents, we can sometimes get too caught up in our children’s education, chores, and activities. However, it's essential to have fun as a family, especially when our children get older. Doing things together like watching movies, playing games, or going on vacations creates happy memories, strengthens our bond, and makes our relationship stronger. It also allows us to talk and connect with our children.
Let Them Fail
Letting our children experience failure is crucial for their personal growth. It helps them learn from mistakes, builds resiliency, and teaches problem-solving skills. We want our children to succeed, but sometimes, they need to fall and pick themselves up. As parents, we need to allow them to fail and be there for them when they need our support.
Remind Them That They Always Have You Support
Our children still need our support as they grow older and become more independent. It's essential to let them know that we are always there for them, no matter what. When we offer our support, it helps them feel safe and secure, knowing that they have a fallback and a trusted source of love and guidance to rely on.
Parenting older kids can be challenging because the role you play in their lives is different and will never go back to what it once was. It's essential to balance guiding them while giving them the freedom to make choices, set boundaries, have fun, let them make mistakes, and be there to support them. As our children grow, we as parents must learn to tilt our parenting hat to give them more autonomy, but that doesn't mean we stop being their trusted advisor, provider, and comforter. Ultimately, our job as parents never really ends; it just changes with time.