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Why it’s Important to Learn from Your Relationship Hurts: Turning Baggage into Brilliance


Have you ever heard the phrase "We bring our own baggage into new relationships?" It’s true, we do but this only happens when we cannot find a way to convert past relationship baggage into present and future brilliance in new relationships.


Our past relationships can leave us hurt and scarred, but it's up to us to learn from these experiences and not let them define us. If we don't heal from these hurts, they can become the baggage we carry into our new relationships, affecting how we see ourselves and how we relate to others. But if we take the time to reflect on these hurts and learn from them, we can turn them into valuable lessons that will help us in future relationships.


Recognize the Patterns


The first step in learning from our past relationship hurts is to recognize the patterns. We may find ourselves repeatedly attracted to the same types of people or engaging in the same dysfunctional behaviors. Taking the time to reflect on our past relationships and recognizing these patterns can help us break free from them and make healthier choices in the future.


Take Responsibility


It's easy to blame our past partners for the hurts we experienced, but it's important to take responsibility for our actions and reactions. We may have contributed to the breakdown of the relationship in some way, and acknowledging our role in the situation is the first step towards healing and preventing future mistakes.


Get Closure


Closure is essential for healing from past relationship hurts. This can involve having a conversation with your ex-partner, writing a letter, or seeking therapy. The goal is to gain a sense of closure and to move on from the past without carrying any emotional baggage.


Focus on Self-Love


Learning from our past hurts can also involve focusing on self-love. It's important to recognize our worth and to treat ourselves with kindness and compassion. This means setting healthy boundaries in new relationships, taking time for self-care, and not settling for less than we deserve.


Use the Lessons in New Relationships


Finally, the lessons we learn from past relationship hurts can be applied to new relationships. We can use our newfound self-awareness to make healthier choices and to communicate our needs and boundaries effectively. By doing so, we can create healthy, fulfilling relationships that are free from the baggage of our past hurts.


It's important to learn from our past relationship hurts and not let them define us. By recognizing patterns, taking responsibility, seeking closure, focusing on self-love, and using the lessons in new relationships, we can break free from our emotional baggage and create healthier, happier relationships. Remember, we have the power to make our relationship experiences a lesson, not just a hurt. When you need a reminder of how to turn that baggage into brilliance consider registering for our upcoming Complimented Not Completed Workshop on July 12 and our RESET (non-therapeutic) support group where you can find many more resources and tools and receive professional and peer guidance and community.


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