Dating can be a tricky process, full of excitement, uncertainty, and fear of rejection. As single parents, it can be even more challenging to find the right partner for ourselves and our children. One of the most important aspects of dating is understanding what we’re looking for in a relationship and what are our deal breakers. Creating a list that is impossible to match with potential partners can be unrealistic and lead us to a never-ending search. Today, we will talk about the importance of having deal breakers while dating, understanding our own values in a relationship, and what we can do to ensure the success of our future relationships.
What are Deal Breakers? - Deal breakers can be any specific characteristic that we cannot tolerate in a potential partner. It is something that would cause us to end a relationship or prevent us from starting one. Ideals such as honesty, trust, loyalty, and kindness should be expected but when we start saying partners need to look a certain way, be a certain height, make a certain amount of money, or have a specific profession, expecting all these traits in one person right from the start can lead to a long search for a perfect match. Understanding which characteristics, we can live with or without can help us focus on finding potential partners that fit our preferences.
Understanding Our Value - Knowing our own value is essential when it comes to finding suitable dating partners. Understanding what we bring to the table is essential to a relationship and what makes us happy can help us communicate our needs and desires with potential partners. Identifying what our strengths and weaknesses are in a relationship can also help us in creating a healthy and loving relationship.
What Do We Bring to the Table? - In dating, it is not enough to just know what you want from someone else. Understanding and acknowledging what you bring to a relationship can help you find partners that complement you in your mutual goals. Being able to express needs and wants, as well as listening to the needs and wants of our potential partners, can enable us to build more meaningful connections.
Personal Work is Essential - Taking the time to work on our insecurities, fears, and negative thought patterns can ensure that we don’t bring unnecessary stress or baggage to a relationship. When we take personal responsibility for our thoughts and emotions, we can create healthier and more robust relationships. Finding a community or support group is a great way to identify resources that will help with personal growth.
Relationship deal breakers are important for finding the perfect match, but it is essential not to create an unrealistic list of characteristics that we expect from our partners. Knowing our value, communication skills, and personal work can help us in creating and maintaining healthy and meaningful relationships.